If you can change the situation, do so. If you cannot? Accept that. To do otherwise is somewhat maddening.

[Another plain arrow, another target, voice as low and gentle as she can manage. She's no Obi-wan, she's certainly no Luke, but this much she can say.]

It's not something that can be done easily, especially if you've spent most of your life doing the opposite. I still have trouble on occasion. But...it's something to keep in mind.